Starting a new year always come with resolutions. But as we all know we are not here to lose weight or stop eating chocolate. We are here to make a huge change within ourselves. Before you read this article I am just to going to put this out there now, In case you are easily offended or not serious about changing I would leave the site now. We are here to do some major work and some things I will say will not make everyone feel warm and fuzzy. Now that we have agreed to stop being negative and stop blaming everyone and their mothers for our problems, we will begin with taking out the trash. Taking out the trash refers to every bad habit you have picked up and crappy people holding your wings down so you can’t fly. This is your time on earth, you have the whole world at the tips of your fingers. And you are here to make a difference. Not a little difference that will fade away when the phase of new years die out. But something that will change the world for the better. One mind at a time, we will conquer this war. And together our voice is louder and more powerful.
Recognizing Toxic Habits
Realizing that you are your biggest problem in your life will not only shatter everything you worked for, but is also a beautiful beginning to a better you. Get a pen and paper and write down the pros and cons of your current lifestyle. Now, On the back side of that paper write down the things that are toxic to you. Are they people, habits, drugs, alcohol, health or just a shitty attitude about life in general? Think about who you were before these things took over your life. What happened in your life to cause you to chose to let these toxic vices grip onto you? Was it trauma? Or was it just something you started doing to fit into society? Now think about the mask you put on, do you like the mask your wearing? I think you are ready deep down inside to project your true self to the world. And being true is scary, but I promise you that you will be more powerful for it.
Envision Life After You
So when you think about your vision where does your vision stop? Does it stop with happiness, peace, or money? Well sorry to burst your bubble but those visions are not the end game here. While visioning the future, go past your time on earth. Will you leave this world a truly better place? What steps do you need to take to ensure that your legacy goes on? Doesn’t necessarily mean that you have to have children to pass on your blood. It means that you have the power to spark the wick of the mind who could make a huge change. Every great man and woman who made a difference was once a child whose mind was sparked by some inspiration. Be that inspiration.
Strong Support Village
Another thing we need to remember is that no one is ever truly independent in this life. We NEED each other, and we have a need to help. So all this independent b.s. is ridiculous. I am a single mother of 3 and there is no way that I will ever get to be independent while they are little. So don’t be so hard on yourself for seeking help? It doesn’t make you weak. It proves that you are aware of your issues and are willing to push through them to become a better person. The 1st step of improvement is to know what needs to be improved. So drop the negative people in your life. You don’t have to invest your energy and time into people who don’t serve you in positive and uplifting ways. And DON’T feel guilty about dropping them either. You can and will survive without them. Only you can breathe for yourself. You deserve to be here and you deserve to pursue a life of happiness and peace. You deserve to smile and laugh without someone or something stealing your shine.
I want to bring up the topic of domestic violence briefly. I won’t spend too much time on it but it is very important to me. If you are in a relationship that doesn’t push you to be better, GET THE FUCK OUT! If you are in a relationship where you don’t feel safe, GET THE FUCK OUT. If you have children who are not able to grow in a prosperous environment, GET THE FUCK OUT. Any kind of abuse is going to hinder the development of your inner being. Don’t be afraid to leave, there is so much help out there. And don’t you ever let anyone victim blame you. Because you are not a victim, you are a victor. And remember that because not everyone is going to stand up for you. You need to stand up for yourself. TAKE YOUR POWER BACK!
If you or anyone you know are having feelings of suicide please hear me closely. Death should never be an option out, time is not in our hands, What we do with it is. When dark thoughts penetrate a persons mind, it takes a lot of work to turn it around. But it is possible and anyone who has been through what you are going through would have given up already. But you are still here, you have a choice to turn it around.
Believing in yourself is necessary. You will be the main one cheering yourself on. I had a vision of my future self visiting my past self. I was on the floor crying, broken, ashamed and defeated. My future self knelt down beside me, she was wearing a business suit and smelt of success and compassion. She told my past self to get up off the floor, brush the dirt off her legs and wipe the tears away. She promised my past self that the pain would really go away and she will have a choice to start over again. She said she me she loved me, a feeling that my past self had never felt. A love for myself. She kissed my forehead and rubbed my hair and looked me in the eyes. I felt her soul and it was so full of love. And that’s when I realized that she was who I wanted to be when I grew up.
Domestic Violence Resource Center: https://www.nrcdv.org/
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: https://suicidepreventionlifel…
Change is possible.